I find it difficult to take a compliment. When someone compliments my clothes, hair or house, these are my responses:
Person: I love that shirt.
Me: Oh really? I hate it, I didn't have anything else to wear.
or
Me: Thanks. It was only $20 at the outlets.
or
Me: Oh really? Thanks, it's so old, I've had it forever.
Person: Your hair looks nice today.
Me: Thanks, I actually washed it today.
or
Me: Ugh, I need to get it cut (or get my highlights done again soon).
or
Me: Thanks, I just brushed it.
Person: Your house is awesome, you guys must be so happy!
Me: Thanks, we love it but there is so much to do.
or
Me: Yes, it's great, but there were so many things we had to fix when we moved in (and then I start listing them all).
I really just need to start saying thank you and then move on. No need to start making excuses for something. I guess it's not really bragging if someone else makes the compliment. Am I the only one that does this?
I loVe this! So very true for me too.
ReplyDeleteI think it is common for people to reply with a qualifier...or TMI! I also had to learn to simply say, Thank You! Because I realized when I compliment others I sincerely want them to feel good and if they answer as you have described...it takes away from that feeling. So I think you are correct and striving to keep it simple and just say Thanks! I like it too. Or it is nice, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteGuilty. I struggle with this all the time. Why do compliments make us so uncomfortable?
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